Finding Love

After I left my ex husband I was hurt and devasted. All that was running thru my mind was that I just lost the man of my life. In reality God was alloowing the right man to come into my life. We all say that after a bad breakup that we are going to find ourselves and wait and thats what I did. One night my home girl said go and get on the chat line and just have fun. So I did and thats when I met the man that Iam with now. The man that excepted me and everything that came with it. He excepted my kids and he took me for me along with all the hurt that I had from the split. After what my ex husband done to me I thought that all men was like him. But I was wrong he was the best thing that ever happened to me and my kids. My life with him is 20 times better then my ex even through the rough times. If only people knew what I have been through and I am just so glad that I have a good man by my side. People that know me may read this even the people that have slept with my ex may read this and( they know who they are) may say damn she putting her business out there but I dont look at it like that. I know that there are so many people out here that go through the same things that I have and some even worse. I write on here because I want people to hear my story and know that even when you have been dogged out to your lowest from the man that you thought that would never break your heart there is always that man out there. Don't go searching let God bring him to you and as long as you be patient and wait on him he will come. As a woman you have to know that your a queen and don't ever think otherwise. For a long time I didn't know my worth from all the hurt and pain that I have endured thru the years. I can now say that in my eyes i know that I am a QUEEN and I know my worth. DO YOU?

My story

I met and thought that I was in love with two of my kids father but that clearly was not the case. We got married when i was 19 and shortly after that came the kids. Any way when I look back I now know that the signs where all around me i was just in denial about it. I cant even say when it first started because we never know that part. My first mistake was marrying him after certain family members told me not too. When ever that happen make sure you wait no matter how much you think that you love someone. Then there were times where the phone would ring and he would either not answer or go outside. After a while i had people telling me different things but we women never listen we always find out the hard way. His favorite line was that he was going night fishing. ( Oh yeah he was really night fishing between somebodies legs ) So I started listening to my gut feeling and started checking phone logs. I'm pretty sure everybody has heard the saying( be careful what your looking for you might just find something that you don't want to know) Well that was my case. I searched until I found what I didn't want to find. Even after that he still denied it and I still believed him and stayed with him like nothing was wrong. The next thing was finding his car behind a females house. Yet that still wasn't enough. Then one night he had got so drunk that he ended up telling me that he was cheating and that the girl was pregnant. Even though she didn't have the baby it was still the principal of it. After that this chick started getting brave and started sending flowers to my house. Then you know that we have problems then. To make a long story short because I can go on all day about the many things that happen. As a woman there's only so much that you are going to take from a man. Stand strong and never let a man treat you less then what you are. Enough is enough and when a woman id fed up it makes it so much easier to leave that man. The things that he done to me caused me lots of hurt and pain. i can talk about it today because i waited for that right man to come in my life. Now that hes here I now know the true meaning of real love.

I just wanted to share some of my story of a cheating partner. If there's anybody that know my pain then you know that it's not a good feeling. Please feel free to leave any comments or Questions.

Signs of cheating

My first post I would like to talk about cheating. What are the signs that your partner is having an affair? Here are some of the things that I have come up with and you tell me any others.

1. when your partner starts taking phone calls outside or just anywhere away from you.
2. when you and your partner are together and his/her phone keep ringing and they will not answer.
3. when you know that you havent had sex in a while lets say three weeks so he should be ready to bust quick but 10 or 15 min have went by and they still going strong somethiongs not right there.

Now here are just a few off top of my head. What do you think?